Try Something New

   Try Something New

      This month’s habit is fun! It’s about getting beyond the normalcy in our lives. Typically, we do the same daily routine, eating the same menu of foods each week and performing the same activities. The routine certainly provides a sense of security, but can also make life feel mundane and stagnant. Trying a new activity may create anxiety and fear of the worst case scenario. Stepping through those fears that our minds tend to exaggerate can be a powerful experience and instill a new confidence in you.  Now, I am not suggesting you climb Mount Everest, but rather experience imaginative activities on a smaller scale.

       There are many benefits to trying new activities. It gets you outside of your daily routine and creates a spark in your life. New activities stimulate creativity  and increase self-awareness. They change the way you view the world. They improve connections between partners, family members and friends. They even make you more marketable, as employers see the “whole you,” which is appealing. 

      This past spring, my kids and I went to a ropes course in Maryland called Adventure Park. The courses varied from ten feet above the ground to elevations high in the trees. I am afraid of heights so I calculated to reduce the risk and stay at the level closest to the ground. I had been there before as a chaperone for my son’s eighth grade class so I was familiar with the harnesses and safety features which gave me some comfort. Yet, traversing on suspended moving elements above ground still gave me pause. Moving through the easier elements gave me the confidence to try higher courses. We did the final course together (medium level) and helped each other through the tougher elements. It was challenging, fun, a little scary, and a great way to spend time together. We each agreed we would like to do it again.

Here are some ideas to try:

  1. When someone invites you to an event you think you will not enjoy, say “Yes!” anyway. It might be a movie, an opera, a different restaurant, or a sporting event. You could be surprised by the experience.

      2.   Prepare and cook a new meal this week. Even different meals open up your life.  Preparing a meal with your partner or friend is fun and brings you together.

      3.   Choose a new place to dine. Experiencing new restaurants opens up your palate and senses.

      4. Try a new game; perhaps pickleball, badminton, cards, or a board game. Games are wonderful ways to interact with each other.

      5. Visit a new town, city or site.  This could be a day trip or a weekend getaway. Roll out the map and explore, there are many lovely spots locally.

      6. Meet someone new today.  More and more, research demonstrates that human interaction, especially in this high-tech world, is a key for happiness. Your friendly smile and greeting might lift another’s spirit and your own. Pause for a moment and chat with someone. It might be the best two minutes of your day.

7. Volunteer. Engaging in the community is a positive way to become involved and invested in your surroundings, and may give you a sense of purpose and pride.  

           Often, it is our minds that limit us. For example,  a negative statement told to you long ago still imprinted in your brain can prevent you from doing what you really want to do. The beautiful aspect about the mind is that we have the ability to change how we think at any point in our life.  Approach each day with a sense of adventure and create your own special moments daily.

“Most obstacles melt away when we make up our minds to walk boldly through them.” 

         ~ Orison Swett Marden

Pura Vida,


Donating Our Time

 Donating Our Time

        A common complaint one hears everywhere is,“I don’t have time to…”,or, conversely,  “I have so much going on right now”. Without denying that everyone’s lives are busy, it is vital to our communities that we volunteer our time because there are always struggling people who need services.  

If you have children or grandchildren, find an organization such as a Food Bank or a church where they can participate. It will be an eye-opening experience for them where they will gain an appreciation for and understanding of their community. Whether the time devoted is great or small, it will be rewarding for everyone involved. Volunteering in an area that is different from your occupation can open doors to new learning experiences and new people that  will enrich your life. We truly learn about our community and its’ needs when we get involved rather than read about it in the news. In this way, we become an active part of the community and can make a difference. Although you are not getting paid, there is an assigned dollar value to your time. According to The Business Times in 2012, “one estimated dollar value of volunteer time is $21.36 per hour. According to one estimate from the Corporation for National and Community Service, about 63.4 million Americans — nearly 27 percent of the adult population — contribute a collective 8.1 billion hours of volunteer service worth $169 billion a year.” That’s a lot of volunteer hours! This is terrific, yet more involvement is needed.

Search locally online, in newspapers, churches, community centers, local schools and organizations to find what interests you and there will be an opportunity.

The rewards are many:

  • Knowing that you are contributing to your community

  • Acquiring new skills

  • Enriching your life and the lives of others

  • Making new friends and social connections

  • Setting a great example for your children and grandchildren

  • Connecting with your community

As a child, I observed my parents and relatives volunteering and gradually came to participate in these church and community activities. I am sure I had my share of grumbling when asked to volunteer, however, my father and I used to talk about the fact that we remember all those experiences and that they became a part of the fabric of our life and helped us to consider others before ourselves.





Connect with Nature  

Connecting with nature is how I have been spending a lot of my time lately (instead of writing the blog in a timely manner). Performing the yard chores of spring: weeding, pruning, mulching, planting and mowing. It is strenuous and time consuming, however, I always itch at every chance to be outdoors.  For many, this is the reason we chose to live in Nelson county because the mountains and rolling landscape are so beautiful. Taking time to connect with nature and take care of our surroundings is important.

There are interesting moments even during a mundane activity such as weeding.  A colorful salamander scoots by or a tiny frog hops about in the dirt. I’ve come upon a baby hummingbird buzzing -curious about me. The senses are overwhelmed in Spring: the warm air, the fragrant smells, the birds singing, the falling raindrops. The longer days invite us outside.  I chide myself when I take numerous photos of sunsets, sunrises, flowers, landscapes -the same scene each season. Those are the moments where I paused long enough to appreciate the beauty.

There are many opportunities to connect with nature even with a busy schedule:

Sit quietly listening and observing without your phone.

Take a walk during your work lunch break or after dinner.

Eat a meal outside.

Appreciate a spectacular sunrise or sunset.

Read a book outside in a hammock.

Feel the fresh air and warm sun on your skin.

Weed the flower beds and and feel the dirt in your hands.

Listen to the beat of raindrops on the roof.

Take a hike.

Play a game outside.

Go to a ballgame.

Go to the beach.

Cut some flowers to put in a vase for the indoors (especially if your workplace doesn’t have windows)

Research reveals that connecting with nature a few minutes daily lowers blood pressure, reduces the output of cortisol and reduces stress.  As we nurture our environment, we are caring for ourselves and that promotes calmness.

In addition, connecting with nature allows us to leave the electronic world of cell phones, ipads and laptops for a little while. That is vital for optimal health and reduction of stress. The continual beeps during the day “alerting” us that there is a new email or text compounds the stress. There is a false immediacy that has been created  in which we feel compelled to respond to everything in the next 15-20 seconds. That type of stress accumulates throughout our lifetime inflaming the mind, organs and cardiovascular system. It is important to be aware of our habits to foster wellness. Connecting with nature cultivates peace in our hearts and minds just as we would cultivate the growth of a beautiful rose.



Phone Addiction

                          Phone Addiction

The phone has become more than a communication device; it is the personal computer, the calendar, and the information hub in our lives. It is common to see people on the phone all the time, oblivious of their surroundings and others. Individuals are using their phones when driving a car, walking on the sidewalk, waiting in line at the grocery store,  and even during mealtimes. It appears to be the norm now to be on the phone rather than conversing with others. There is even a term for it now: phubbing. Phubbing refers to snubbing others in favor of the mobile phone. No one can argue that the mobile phone is an  excellent tool to connect us, to check the internet and to check our email. It directs us in traffic, it helps us locate a gas station and it alerts others that we need assistance. It helps business owners conduct transactions when not in the office.

But have we let it take over our lives?

More and more research demonstrates that long term use of the cell phone, and computer has harmful effects on youngsters and adults. It harms relationships, creates anxiety, increases resentment, increases depression and increases loneliness. It becomes an addiction.

The definition of addiction from the American Society of Addiction Medicine is: Addiction is a primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory and related circuitry. Dysfunction in these circuits leads to characteristic biological, psychological, social and spiritual manifestations.

Here’s how it works: We hear a “beep” notification from the phone alerting us that someone has emailed, texted, or posted something on facebook. We pick up the phone, check it out and may think, “Oh that’s neat.” We get little “brain rewards” when we are on the phone; checking email, searching the web and looking at facebook. This motivates us to keep checking the phone throughout the day. Our brain “remembers” these little biscuits and we want more. So, we keep checking the phone, social media and internet. Sometimes we spend so much time on the internet that we neglect our own self care needs.

Research also reveals that the  perception that we are connecting with friends via internet does not replace actual live human connections. The less human contact we have with each other isolates us and increases depression, anxiety and loneliness. The phone/internet addiction adds to the loss of real relationships. It also lowers self esteem, increases resentment and compounds the loss of original and creative thoughts.

A balance can be achieved with the use of the phone/internet and other areas of our lives. Very simple changes can be implemented. Here are some suggestions:

  1. Turn off notifications.

  2. Use an old fashioned alarm clock instead of your phone.

  3. Stop use of all electronics one hour before bedtime.

  4. Avoid bringing the phones to the table at meal times.

  5. Connect with nature.

  6. Arrange friends/family game night.

  7. Place the phone in your desk drawer at work or keep it in your briefcase/purse.

  8. Make eye contact with others when talking with them.

  9. Have lunch with an friend.

If you find yourself struggling to keep the phone on a table away from you  and scoff at the above suggestions, consider that you may have an excessive attachment to your phone (made of metal and plastic). The phone cannot console you, it cannot hug you and it cannot provide the essential aspects of human connection (eye contact, affection, empathy, friendship, compassion).  Interact with the people and life around you as opposed to letting the phone rule your life. Remember it is tool and just a tool.